Are there obvious signs of a failing relationship? Certainly in retrospect then we quite easily spot all of the signs leading up to it, however at the time then because we are so close to the other person then it is a lot harder to spot when their behaviour changes. Sometimes all it requires is taking a step back when you think something is odd, and calmly thinking about what they did that for, and what they’ve been doing recently. Do that and patterns that you’ve overlooked may start to emerge. This means that you can then work on any problems that your partner may be letting eat at them before things get too far.